So I've been seeing/dating (not quite dating because we're not officially dating) this girl since early March of this year. Every time we go out we have lots of fun, we laugh a lot, we make bad decisions that feel good, and everything else that goes along with the excitement of a new relationship.

However, twice now I've brought up the topic of dating which ended with disastrous results. Both times, as soon as I brought that up she shut down and turned cold on me, and it took days to begin feeling normal in conversation with her again. She told me about how her last dating relationship ended badly (which I didn't think was too seriously bad after she told me the "break up" event story, but anyway) and that she wasn't looking to date anyone right now, and that she wasn't at that place in her life (she's 28 and out of school for 5 years), and some other crap. So at this point in my mind I'm thinking "Well then what the hell have we been doing since March!"

Fast forward to three weeks or so after the second (and maybe last) dating discussion that I brought up, everything had been going fine since then, we ironed out the tension between us from that dicussion, and a fact came up in one of our conversations that frustrated the heck out of me. I was not going to get to see her for the whole month of August. Why? Because she had made plans with family and friends every single weekend and was not able to make plans with me for any of them. We live 90 minutes away, so weekends are really our only option for seeing each other. So I got frustrated with her, and the conversation ended badly.

The next day, I felt bad about being demanding of her because, after all we're not dating, so I shouldn't have any expectations of her right? Wrong. All of our hanging out earlier this year set my expectations too high, and to go a whole month or longer without getting together just sucks now. So the next day I feld bad and apologized to her over text about getting frustrated with her, and she texted back "I'm not mad at you at ALL but we do have stuff we need to figure out. We'll chat about it sometime." That was roughly two weeks ago.

You're hearing all the bad stuff here, but there is a lot of good between us and in the end I would marry this girl, but if talking about dating freaks her out, I sure as hell can't drop anything near the M bomb on her right now. Based on recent conversations with her, I think we will soon be having this chat about "things we need to figure out" and here's my question. Would it freak a girl out if I told her, in this stage of the game I've described, that if we decided to start officially dating, and that went well, I would have no problem switching jobs, selling my house, and moving to her town 90 minutes away so we could be together? Would describing that possible scenario generally win a girls heart, or would it freak her out? I know all girls are different and it depends on the situation and all, but I'm just asking in general given what I've described.

That's what I really believe about this girl, so maybe I should find a palatable way to express that to her, and that's what I'm planning to do at this point but please give your opinions. Follow up questions are welcomed.

Sarah2013 I'm looking forward to you chiming in on this one!