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Bails on plans because she's anxious?
  • CodyCody July 2011

    This girl I've talked to on and off for a few months (never to serious) started talking for a few months via text/fb/etc. and when I went home we hung out once finally and made out... well a couple weeks later I'm back and we were going to go to a movie at 7... she bailed at 6 and asked if I wanted to go to the matinee the next day, I asked if the late show was ok because I didn't want to wait until the next day to see her again and she said yeah... then about an hour before she bailed on that too... she told me it was because she was anxious that it would be awkward... she even asked me to ask some friends to go with and I did and they were going to go.

    there's more afterwards but it doesn't even matter now. I'm just wondering if it's normal for people/girls to bail on plans because they're anxious?

  • CodyCody July 2011

    I might add for the last couple of months we've talked nearly every day.

  • borebore August 2011

    It's possible that she's "anxious", but it's also possible that she chose to do a different activity at the last minute.

    You need to do more talking on the phone. You shouldn't try to talk to her forever by text or facebook. I think if you talk to her on the phone for a bit she'll feel more comfortable with seeing you in person.

    The other thing you can do is meet up with her for an activity that is a little more social. Going to a movie means that you're probably not going to talk to her that much and maybe she feels weird about sitting in a dark room with you right now. She might even think that you're planning to make a physical move because you're at the movies (dark place) and she is not comfortable with that.

  • Sarah2013Sarah2013 August 2011

    Yeah, you can tell her that if she's nervous about it being awkward you could always just go out for coffee and if she doesn't like the way it works out she doesn't have to go out on another date with you .

    She sounds like she is just freaking out maybe she had a bad last realtionship or something. You never really know why someone does what they do unless they tell you! Ask her why she is nervous and just make sure that she feels comfortable going out with you. Sometimes girls need to be babyed and taken care of a bit.

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